Benjamin Franklin said that the constitution gives us the right to pursue happiness but we have to catch it ourselves.
Yes, I reluctantly admit that I was one of those mothers that locked her children outside to play. But I always followed up with, "Remember that Momma loves you and this is for your own good!" Besides, I made the choice to raise my children in the country and I figured if I was paying for the land they were going to use it.
However, Avry, my third child, hated the outdoors. She was born into a family whose mother and siblings spent most of their weekends hunting, fishing, camping and shooting guns. Sadly, this left Avry on the front porch in her fluffy dress and plastic high-heeled shoes wondering aimlessly around the front door. Nothing I ever said convinced this child that playing outdoors was fun. One day, I looked at Avry and sternly stated, “Avry, you are going to stay outside today and find your imagination.” And I sadly closed and locked the door behind me.
A while later, I went outside to check on Avry. Much to my surprise, the child was covered in dirt and I could only see the whites of her eyes. I asked her what she had been doing and she looked up at me and frankly stated, “Momma, I found my imagination and it kept me busy all day long!”
I knew, after that day, my daughter would make it in this world. Why? Because she had learned one of life's most valuable lessons. She learned how to be responsible for her own happiness.
What I have learned:
- Life doesn't owe us a happy ending. If you want to be happy then get out of the house and make something happen that will make you happy.
- Sometimes the person shoving us out the door really does have our best interest at heart. Whether it's a nudge, an encouraging word, or a little push, a little disappointment, or a little pain to make us search for that which will serve
- It's not your children's job, your bosses responsibility, or life to it's the person in the mirror.